The Power of Vulnerability

Today we watched a video called, " Brene Brown: The Power of Vulnerability" and we later asked to reflect upon it. Many people today believe that being vulnerable is terrible due to the fact that they were raised not to be vulnerable. I do believe that being vulnerable can be consequential but after watching the video today I see another side to it. Being open to someone, vulnerable to your partner can actually be a great thing. We were asked to reflect on the video and relate it to our own experiences in life. I never realized this before but after meeting my boyfriend Kyle, I see that I actually accept myself for who I am. I no longer believe that I am unworthy of love or acceptance. I believe I have accepted myself due to the vulnerability I have towards Kyle. He makes me feel good about myself, I can trust him, I can show my true self around him without my make up on, and finally I can tell him everything and anything that is on my mind. In a way I guess you could say I found another side to vulnerability; a side that most parents do not put into perspective. I find that being vulnerable to someone you love and care for can be a stepping stone in your life to becoming yourself; accepting who you are.

Our second question we answered was relating the video to human sexuality. How encouraged is vulnerability in sexual relationships? I find that it's actually discouraged. Most people fear refection and therefore not vulnerable to their sexual partner. It was interesting to hear some people's points in class for example, women tend to have a more physical fear, stressing over whether or not the male will approve of their body and general looks when they are naked. Another point was that men tend to have a fear of "Will she approve of my performance in bed?" Men tend to stress over their performance not their physical appearance. I found the gender differences to be interesting but there so very true. My male friends always brag to each other and tell each other their techniques while my female friends and I talk more about how comfortable or uncomfortable it felt.