Feminism

Last week in class we watched a video called, "The F-Word Who Wants to be a Feminist?" It changed my perspective upon feminist but yet still to this day I know for a fact that I myself am not a feminist. I do believe that the rights and freedom women have today are amazing. I believe that we as women have everything we could ask for so why are there still feminist movements, what more could we ask for without over-powering men? I thought we wanted equality and equality we have. Some women may say we get paid less than men which is true in some cases but they don't put into perspective that when we as women take a mat-leave, the men in the workforce are getting raises because they are still working. I don't think some women put that into perspective. I truly believe that the women in Canada have things made and if anything a movement should be for the starving and homeless people that are out there. I don't see myself as a feminist because I think that women can do everything men can do, there's no one out there saying that women cannot be welders, carpenters etc. Women are allowed to do anything they put there mind toward(anything non-illegal that is).

This is a wordle I made from the lyrics of the song "Man, I Feel Like a Woman" by Shania Twain

Sexual Fantasy

I find it interesting and very creative of our minds to come up with sexual fantasies.Some people may have them while masturbating, sexual intercourse, and even in their dreams. A study shows that sexual fantasies are positively correlated to orgasmic potential. So why do most people find it vulgar to talk about? Most believe it's vulgar because talking about sex is seen as vulgar. Fantasies in my worlds are a kick start to a creative sexual relationship with ones partner if shared.

I find it very interesting that most women find it offencive, I myself do, when their boyfriend or husband have sexual fantasies with other women but yet we as women do it ourselves. So what drives us to hate it so much when our partners do it? That's something I cannot answer but can guess that it relates to the topic of jealousy and probably a portion of low self-confidence. The partner would never in real life go through with their fantasy unless the fantasy has there partner involved in it. That's something I tell myself when I think that my boyfriend has sexual fantasies with other women.

Fantasies are seen as an imaginary world. A place where your aloud to do anything without having to think you will go to jail, get divorced, dumped, etc. It's a way for humans to be creative with their sexual self. Study shows that 50% of women have sexual fantasies of having forced sex. When I first read this I thought it was crazy, why would a woman want forced sex. I did not believe it at first but then I told my friend about that and she said she does sometimes and that a friend of hers actually role played forced sex before. After hearing that I believed it and just realised that I am one of the few women that do not fantasize that.

Question on Abortion

The question asked in class and I'm sure is asked around the world is, "should abortion be legal? If so why and in what conditions?"

I'm personally against abortion but to a certain degree, so with that said I do believe that abortion should stay legal. The conditions that I accept abortion are when a women is raped and becomes pregnant from that experience and another reason would be if the woman's health is in danger then yes I do believe that abortion should be an option. I am extremely against abortion if the woman is just going out and not being safe about sex and gets abortions every time she is becomes pregnant then yes I do believe abortion is unacceptable at that point.

If the government made abortion illegal again I believe that some women will end up killing themselves and the baby. Some women even now a days try to do at home abortions such as as a funnel and bleach or purposely falling down the stairs. Abortion will occur if its legal or not, determined women will perform the task themselves

A video that I found that will make you cry... literally

The Power of Vulnerability

Today we watched a video called, " Brene Brown: The Power of Vulnerability" and we later asked to reflect upon it. Many people today believe that being vulnerable is terrible due to the fact that they were raised not to be vulnerable. I do believe that being vulnerable can be consequential but after watching the video today I see another side to it. Being open to someone, vulnerable to your partner can actually be a great thing. We were asked to reflect on the video and relate it to our own experiences in life. I never realized this before but after meeting my boyfriend Kyle, I see that I actually accept myself for who I am. I no longer believe that I am unworthy of love or acceptance. I believe I have accepted myself due to the vulnerability I have towards Kyle. He makes me feel good about myself, I can trust him, I can show my true self around him without my make up on, and finally I can tell him everything and anything that is on my mind. In a way I guess you could say I found another side to vulnerability; a side that most parents do not put into perspective. I find that being vulnerable to someone you love and care for can be a stepping stone in your life to becoming yourself; accepting who you are.

Our second question we answered was relating the video to human sexuality. How encouraged is vulnerability in sexual relationships? I find that it's actually discouraged. Most people fear refection and therefore not vulnerable to their sexual partner. It was interesting to hear some people's points in class for example, women tend to have a more physical fear, stressing over whether or not the male will approve of their body and general looks when they are naked. Another point was that men tend to have a fear of "Will she approve of my performance in bed?" Men tend to stress over their performance not their physical appearance. I found the gender differences to be interesting but there so very true. My male friends always brag to each other and tell each other their techniques while my female friends and I talk more about how comfortable or uncomfortable it felt.