Feminism

Last week in class we watched a video called, "The F-Word Who Wants to be a Feminist?" It changed my perspective upon feminist but yet still to this day I know for a fact that I myself am not a feminist. I do believe that the rights and freedom women have today are amazing. I believe that we as women have everything we could ask for so why are there still feminist movements, what more could we ask for without over-powering men? I thought we wanted equality and equality we have. Some women may say we get paid less than men which is true in some cases but they don't put into perspective that when we as women take a mat-leave, the men in the workforce are getting raises because they are still working. I don't think some women put that into perspective. I truly believe that the women in Canada have things made and if anything a movement should be for the starving and homeless people that are out there. I don't see myself as a feminist because I think that women can do everything men can do, there's no one out there saying that women cannot be welders, carpenters etc. Women are allowed to do anything they put there mind toward(anything non-illegal that is).

This is a wordle I made from the lyrics of the song "Man, I Feel Like a Woman" by Shania Twain

Sexual Fantasy

I find it interesting and very creative of our minds to come up with sexual fantasies.Some people may have them while masturbating, sexual intercourse, and even in their dreams. A study shows that sexual fantasies are positively correlated to orgasmic potential. So why do most people find it vulgar to talk about? Most believe it's vulgar because talking about sex is seen as vulgar. Fantasies in my worlds are a kick start to a creative sexual relationship with ones partner if shared.

I find it very interesting that most women find it offencive, I myself do, when their boyfriend or husband have sexual fantasies with other women but yet we as women do it ourselves. So what drives us to hate it so much when our partners do it? That's something I cannot answer but can guess that it relates to the topic of jealousy and probably a portion of low self-confidence. The partner would never in real life go through with their fantasy unless the fantasy has there partner involved in it. That's something I tell myself when I think that my boyfriend has sexual fantasies with other women.

Fantasies are seen as an imaginary world. A place where your aloud to do anything without having to think you will go to jail, get divorced, dumped, etc. It's a way for humans to be creative with their sexual self. Study shows that 50% of women have sexual fantasies of having forced sex. When I first read this I thought it was crazy, why would a woman want forced sex. I did not believe it at first but then I told my friend about that and she said she does sometimes and that a friend of hers actually role played forced sex before. After hearing that I believed it and just realised that I am one of the few women that do not fantasize that.

Question on Abortion

The question asked in class and I'm sure is asked around the world is, "should abortion be legal? If so why and in what conditions?"

I'm personally against abortion but to a certain degree, so with that said I do believe that abortion should stay legal. The conditions that I accept abortion are when a women is raped and becomes pregnant from that experience and another reason would be if the woman's health is in danger then yes I do believe that abortion should be an option. I am extremely against abortion if the woman is just going out and not being safe about sex and gets abortions every time she is becomes pregnant then yes I do believe abortion is unacceptable at that point.

If the government made abortion illegal again I believe that some women will end up killing themselves and the baby. Some women even now a days try to do at home abortions such as as a funnel and bleach or purposely falling down the stairs. Abortion will occur if its legal or not, determined women will perform the task themselves

A video that I found that will make you cry... literally

The Power of Vulnerability

Today we watched a video called, " Brene Brown: The Power of Vulnerability" and we later asked to reflect upon it. Many people today believe that being vulnerable is terrible due to the fact that they were raised not to be vulnerable. I do believe that being vulnerable can be consequential but after watching the video today I see another side to it. Being open to someone, vulnerable to your partner can actually be a great thing. We were asked to reflect on the video and relate it to our own experiences in life. I never realized this before but after meeting my boyfriend Kyle, I see that I actually accept myself for who I am. I no longer believe that I am unworthy of love or acceptance. I believe I have accepted myself due to the vulnerability I have towards Kyle. He makes me feel good about myself, I can trust him, I can show my true self around him without my make up on, and finally I can tell him everything and anything that is on my mind. In a way I guess you could say I found another side to vulnerability; a side that most parents do not put into perspective. I find that being vulnerable to someone you love and care for can be a stepping stone in your life to becoming yourself; accepting who you are.

Our second question we answered was relating the video to human sexuality. How encouraged is vulnerability in sexual relationships? I find that it's actually discouraged. Most people fear refection and therefore not vulnerable to their sexual partner. It was interesting to hear some people's points in class for example, women tend to have a more physical fear, stressing over whether or not the male will approve of their body and general looks when they are naked. Another point was that men tend to have a fear of "Will she approve of my performance in bed?" Men tend to stress over their performance not their physical appearance. I found the gender differences to be interesting but there so very true. My male friends always brag to each other and tell each other their techniques while my female friends and I talk more about how comfortable or uncomfortable it felt.

Homophobia Inquiry

Today in class it was mentioned that according to the textbook, research shows that men tend to be more homophobic than women and our question to this was why? Why are men more homophobic?

My answer/belief to this question is that men want to come across as masculine and they believe that if they approve of homosexuals that they will be seen as feminine or a homosexual themselves. When I was reading the textbook I found it interesting when I came across a research study that was done. They had two group of heterosexual males except one group was homophobic while the other was not. They placed a video of male on male action and recorded the sexual response. The heterosexual males who were not homophobic had no sexual response to the video but the heterosexual males who were homophobic had a small sexual response to the video. So with this said it also makes me wonder if most  homophobic males are gay themselves or unsure of their sexual orientation.

homophobic cartoon I found on Google

Females on the other hand are more accepting to homosexuals than males are. I take an evolutionary prospective on this and say it's because women were always seen as the motherly, caring type of people who accept anyone. Most women believe that these values are still within them therefore they are more accepting to the concept of homosexuals. I also believe that women are more accepting of there sexual orientation then men are. Most lesbians are fine when coming out to people whereas gay males tend to have a harder time accepting the fact that they are indeed gay and therefore have trouble coming out to people. I believe society plays a strong role in those actions due to the fact that they tend to accept lesbians better than gay males, why that is? I'm not sure.

Sexual Orientation

We talked about several aspects of sexual orientation such as classification issues, kinsey's continuum, erotic dimensions but the one thing that stuck out for me in class today was Barry Adam's ideas. His idea, which I find true, is that relationships and attractions are more than just sex, they involve an emotional side to it as well as a strong connection between the two people. My teacher made a very good point in class regarding this idea. Heterosexual males like girls but do they like every girl they see?No they don't, they become attracted to an individual and gain a strong relationship with them (on most occasions). Same goes with homosexual males, yes they do like men but not all men. They to become attracted to an individual who they believe share the same interests and goals. So my question is why do all heterosexual males believe that all gay males are attracted to them? It stupid, it really is.

Pictures I found on Google

Why is it Hard For Homosexuals to Come Out?

The question many people have is, "Why is it so Hard For Homosexuals to Come Out?" With how society is today it should be easier for homosexuals to revel their truth about their sexuality but that's not the case. Most are afraid of being bullied, shut out from former friendships and even shut out by family members. I actually work with a guy who is homosexual and has only told a few people me not being one of them. I knew he was gay ever since high school but even mentioned anything about it. I get along great with him and see him as a good friend of mine now but yet I ask myself why won't he tell me he's gay? He knows I will not make fun of him or treat him differently just because he's gay. My co-workers who he has come out too even told him that I know but yet to this day he has yet to tell me face-to-face.

Today in class we watched a video on a homosexual male who was in the hockey league as an assistant, his name was Brendan Burke who sadly passed away in a car crash. He was one of the first people in hockey history to admit that he was gay. So many gay athletes are afraid to come out due to fear of being treated differently by teammates and even by the public themselves. It's stressful for them to keep their sexuality a secret but even more stressful to find a way of letting the world know. A man in the video made a very good point in that when a women comes out as being homosexual not many people care or are offended by it but when a male comes out it's a whole other story.

I believe that the reason why most males do not accept gay males is due to the fact that they believe that if a gay male is around them that they will try to hit on them or are attracted to them but that's not the case at all. Gay males and females do not go after heterosexual individuals and if they do it is an honest mistake on their part. I believe this in one of the main reasons why males in society do not tolerate other males who are homosexual.

People always say be yourself don't ever change who you are for others. So why is it when homosexual individuals come out that many people are offended and taken back by it? Homosexuals are people as well; people who have feelings and emotions and are capable of caring for others. People should not judge a person but their sexuality but rather by their personality and inner beauty. So many teen homosexuals commit suicide due to cyber and school bullying. Society needs to take a greater stand for this topic before it's too late.